SOCIAL EMOTIONAL LEARNING
-SELF AWARENESS
-SELF MANAGEMENT
-SOCIAL AWARENESS
-RELATIONSHIP SKILLS
-RESPONSIBLE DECISION MAKING
THE Violence "I" Prevent
-DEFEND SELF & OTHERS!
-CONFRONT BULLYING! -DOCUMENT BULLYING!
-REPORT BULLYING!
-REPEAT!
CONFLICT STRATEGIES, ANGER MANAGEMENT, DECISION MAKING TIPS, and More!
OUR CORE VALUES
*Bible Based-BOLD-Analytical
*MULTI-GENERATIONAL Practicality
*CREATIVE PROBLEM SOLVING ACTIONS
VIP TRAUMA-DOUS CRASH COURSE!
-TRAUMA: an emotional response to a tragic event
-Trauma can be experienced or witnessed
-Trauma can occur one time or over time
-No one is immune to trauma ("wounds")
-Trauma can cause fear, distrust, risky behaviors, etc.
-ACES (Adverse Childhood Experiences-Trauma)
Experienced or Experiencing: Physical, Emotional, or Sexual Abuse- Physical or Emotional Neglect-Mother Treated Violently-Incarcerated Household Member-Drugs/Alcohol- Separation or Divorce- Mental Illness In the Home (Adapted from CDC.org)
-IF THIS IS YOU, PLEASE GET HELP!
-CONTACT A CARING PERSON AT SCHOOL, CHURCH, MENTAL HEALTH PROFESSIONAL, etc.
-KNOW THERE IS HOPE! YOU ARE WORTH IT!
"This...Stops with Me!"
TYPES OF BULLYING
-VERBAL (Name calling, teasing...)
-PHYSICAL (Hitting, pushing, ...)
-SOCIAL (Isolating, Excluding...)
-EMOTIONAL (Spreading Rumors)
-TECHNOLOGICAL/CYBER
FOUR TYPES OF PARENTING
-AUTHORITARIAN (FEARED)
-PERMISSIVE (FREEDOM)
-UNINVOLVED (FAR AWAY)
-AUTHORITATIVE (FAIR/FIRM)
Anthony J. Butler: Founder/CEO
The VIP Movement, LLC confronts violence at the core! We go straight to the heart of the matter...one's own epic battle with personal pain. When pain is acknowledged and managed in a healthy way, violence is greatly reduced. We educate, inspire, and challenge people to become a part of more peaceful solutions! We help individuals to declare that when it comes to senseless violence, "THIS...STOPS WITH ME!!!"
OUR mission & vision
We confront the underlying reasons for violence in unique and innovative ways through practical education that inspires individuals to pursue treating others how they want to be treated.
VIP DECISION MAKING STEPS
-WHAT AM I FACING?(Insight)
-WHAT ARE MY CHOICES?
-WHAT WILL HAPPEN IF I DO THIS OR DO THAT?( Foresight)
-MAKE MY DECISION!
-WHAT DID I LEARN?(Hindsight)
WHAT'S FUELING THE ANGER?
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ABANDONMENT-HUMILIATION-UNLOVED
UNWANTED-GUILT-ANXIETY-STRESSED
WHAT IS VIOLENCE?
Violence is the deliberate, intentional use of physical force(threatened or actual) intended to hurt, injure, damage, abuse, or kill someone or something. The main types of violence are: SELF DIRECTED (against oneself) INTERPERSONAL (between one another) COLLECTIVE (group violence for economic, political, or social purposes)
CONFLICT STYLES
-COMPETING
-COLLABORATING
-COMPROMISING
-ACCOMODATING
-AVOIDING
VIP CONFLICT STRATEGIES
-CALM DOWN
-USE "I" STATEMENTS
-BE RESPECTFUL
-LISTEN CAREFULLY
-FOCUS ON ONE ISSUE AT A TIME
-ACCEPT RESPONSIBILITY
-KNOW WHEN TO MOVE ON
-WORK TO FIND A SOLUTION
-GET HELP FROM OTHERS
-PEACEFUL BODY LANGUAGE
-BE HONEST
VIP ANGER MANAGEMENT TIPS
-TAKE DEEP BREATHS
-COUNT UP TO/DOWN FROM 10
-EXERCISE
-FOCUS ON "CALMING" THINGS
-PRAY
-TAKE A TIME OUT
-DON'T HOLD GRUDGES
-EXPRESS ANGER PROPERLY
-FIND SOLUTIONS TO THE ANGER
STRESS MANAGEMENT
AVOID Unnecessary Stress
ALTER The Situation
ADAPT To The Stressor
ACCEPT The Things You Can Not Change
Primary Sources: Center For Disease Control ( CDC) & American Institute of Stress
Eight Types Of Dads
-DYNAMIC
-DESIGNATED
-DENIED
-DO TOO MUCH
-DETAINED
-DISTRACTED/DISENGAGED
-DEADBEAT
-DESTRUCTIVE
INSIGHTFUL BOOKS
* "FIGHTING WORDS!"
* "ROOT REASONS FOR VIOLENCE"
* "WHO CANCELLED COMMON SENSE?"
* "A POETIC COLLAGE"
Purchase These Books By Anthony J. Butler
VIP "C" FOR LIFE SKILLS!
*COLLABORATE
*COMMUNICATE
*COMPETE
*CONTAIN/MANAGE EMOTIONS
*CRITICAL THINKING
*COMPLEX PROBLEM SOLVING
*CREATIVE THINKING
*CONFLICT RESOLUTION
*CARING CATAPULTING CONNECTIONS
*CONVEYING YOUR MESSAGE
*CHARACTER
*CONFIDENCE
*COMPREHENSION & COMPUTATION
RED Flags In Relationships! Call 1-800-799-7233 for support!
* Extreme Jealousy * Pressures You
* Excessive Calls, Texts, etc. * Yells at you
* Ignores Your Boundaries * Throws or Destroys items
* Cheats on you * Goes back on Promises
* Isolates You From Others * Uses Social media to watch you
* Puts You down * Makes all/most of the decisions
* has big mood swings * Hurts pets or threatens to
*threatens you * Makes you feel nervous
* Acts Controlling * Tries to make you feel crazy
* Has Hit, pushed, pinched you... * Doesn't take you serious
* Keeps you from succeeding * Makes you feel unwanted
* Has a history of violence * uses Alcohol/drugs
* makes Excuses * Tells you how to dress/etc.
* Takes no responsibility * Blames you for their actions
Pay attention to these and more "red Flags!"
Trust your instincts!
Call 1-800-799-7233 for support, guidance, AND LEARN WHY PEOPLE HAVE DIFFICULTY LEAVING ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIPS. LEARN WHAT YOU CAN DO TO HELP!
SUICIDE SUPPORT...REACH OUT FOR HELP!
If you're thinking about committing suicide or know someone who is thinking about committing suicide please call 1-800-273-TALK in the United States.To find a suicide helpline outside the United States, visit Suicide.org
The World Health Organization estimates that approximately 1 million people die each year from suicide. For every person who commits suicide, 25 others try! Take any suicidal talk or behavior seriously. It's not just a warning sign that the person is thinking about suicide—it's a cry for help.
Most suicidal individuals give warning signs or signals of their intentions. The best way to prevent suicide is to recognize these warning signs and know how to respond if you spot them. If you believe that a friend or family member is suicidal, you can play a role in suicide prevention by pointing out the alternatives, showing that you care, and getting a doctor or psychologist involved.
Major warning signs for suicide include talking about killing or harming oneself,talking or writing a lot about death or dying, and seeking out things that could be used in a suicide attempt, such as weapons and drugs. These signals are even more dangerous if the person has a mood disorder such as depression or bipolar disorder, suffers from alcohol dependence, has previously attempted suicide, or has a family history of suicide.
A more subtle but equally dangerous warning sign of suicide is hopelessness. Studies have found that hopelessness is a strong predictor of suicide. People who feel hopeless may talk about "unbearable" feelings, predict a bleak future, and state that they have nothing to look forward to.
Other warning signs that point to a suicidal mind frame include dramatic mood swings or sudden personality changes, such as going from outgoing to withdrawn or well-behaved to rebellious. A suicidal person may also lose interest in day-to-day activities, neglect his or her appearance, and show big changes in eating or sleeping habits.
Call 1-800-273-TALK in the United States. To find a suicide helpline outside the U.S. visit Suicide.org