Eight Types Of Dads
-DYNAMIC
-DESIGNATED
-DENIED
-DO TOO MUCH
-DETAINED
-DISTRACTED/DISENGAGED
-DEADBEAT
-DESTRUCTIVE
CONFLICT STRATEGIES, ANGER MANAGEMENT, DECISION MAKING TIPS, and More!
Anthony J. Butler: Founder/CEO
The VIP Movement, LLC confronts violence at the core! We go straight to the heart of the matter...one's own epic battle with personal pain. When pain is acknowledged and managed in a healthy way, violence is greatly reduced. We educate, inspire, and challenge people to become a part of more peaceful solutions! We help individuals to declare that when it comes to senseless violence, "THIS...STOPS WITH ME!!!"
THE Violence "I" Prevent
VIP TRAUMA-DOUS CRASH COURSE!
-TRAUMA: an emotional response to a tragic event
-Trauma can be experienced or witnessed
-Trauma can occur one time or over time
-No one is immune to trauma ("wounds")
-Trauma can cause fear, distrust, risky behaviors, etc.
-ACES (Adverse Childhood Experiences-Trauma)
Experienced or Experiencing: Physical, Emotional, or Sexual Abuse- Physical or Emotional Neglect-Mother Treated Violently-Incarcerated Household Member-Drugs/Alcohol- Separation or Divorce- Mental Illness In the Home (Adapted from CDC.org)
-IF THIS IS YOU, PLEASE GET HELP!
-CONTACT A CARING PERSON AT SCHOOL, CHURCH/PLACE of FAITH, MENTAL HEALTH PROFESSIONAL, etc.
-KNOW THERE IS HOPE! YOU ARE WORTH IT!
WHAT'S FUELING THE ANGER?
HURT-FEAR-REJECTION-DISRESPECTED-JEALOUSY-SADNESS-SHAME-NEGLECT-HOPELESSNESS-EMBARRASMENT
ABANDONMENT-HUMILIATION-UNLOVED
UNWANTED-GUILT-ANXIETY-STRESSED
STRESS MANAGEMENT
AVOID Unnecessary Drama and Stress
ALTER The Situations "You Can" Change
ADAPT To The Stressors...Better Manage What's On Your Plate/Going On In Your Life
ACCEPT What Is Out Of Your Control
ASK God For Wisdom And Guidance (Pray & Obey)
ALWAYS Be Joyful, Prayerful, & Thankful!
OUR vision & MISSION
VISION: A Society Without Senseless Violence
MISSION: To confront the underlying reasons for senseless violence in unique and innovative ways by treating others how we want to be treated
CONFLICT STYLES
-COMPETING
-COLLABORATING
-COMPROMISING
-ACCOMODATING
-AVOIDING
VIP DECISION MAKING STEPS
-WHAT AM I FACING? (Insight)
-WHAT ARE MY CHOICES?
-WHAT WILL HAPPEN IF I DO THIS OR DO THAT? (Foresight)
-MAKE MY DECISION!
-WHAT DID I LEARN? (Hindsight)
FOUR TYPES OF PARENTING
-AUTHORITARIAN (FEARED)
-PERMISSIVE (FREEDOM)
-UNINVOLVED (FAR AWAY)
-AUTHORITATIVE (FAIR/FIRM/FABOLOUS)
WHAT IS VIOLENCE?
Violence is the deliberate, intentional use of physical force(threatened or actual) intended to hurt, injure, damage, abuse, or kill someone or something. The main types of violence are: SELF DIRECTED (against oneself) INTERPERSONAL (between one another) COLLECTIVE (group violence for economic, political, or social purposes)
SOCIAL EMOTIONAL LEARNING
-SELF AWARENESS
-SELF MANAGEMENT
-SOCIAL AWARENESS
-RELATIONSHIP SKILLS
-RESPONSIBLE DECISION MAKING
TYPES OF BULLYING
-VERBAL (Name calling, teasing...)
-PHYSICAL (Hitting, pushing, ...)
-SOCIAL (Isolating, Excluding...)
-EMOTIONAL (Spreading Rumors)
-TECHNOLOGICAL/CYBER
VIP ANGER MANAGEMENT TIPS
-TAKE DEEP BREATHS
-COUNT UP TO/DOWN FROM 10
-EXERCISE
-FOCUS ON "CALMING" THINGS
-PRAY
-TAKE A TIME OUT
-DON'T HOLD GRUDGES
-EXPRESS ANGER PROPERLY
-FIND SOLUTIONS TO THE ANGER
OUR CORE VALUES
*Bible Based-BOLD-Analytical
*MULTI-GENERATIONAL Practicality
*CREATIVE PROBLEM SOLVING ACTIONS
VIP CONFLICT STRATEGIES
-CALM DOWN
-USE "I" STATEMENTS
-BE RESPECTFUL
-LISTEN CAREFULLY
-FOCUS ON ONE ISSUE AT A TIME
-ACCEPT RESPONSIBILITY
-KNOW WHEN TO MOVE ON
-WORK TO FIND A SOLUTION
-GET HELP FROM OTHERS
-PEACEFUL BODY LANGUAGE
-BE HONEST
-DEFEND SELF & OTHERS!
-CONFRONT BULLYING! -DOCUMENT BULLYING!
-REPORT BULLYING!
-REPEAT!
"This...Stops with Me!"
VIP "C" FOR LIFE SKILLS!
*COLLABORATE
*COMMUNICATE
*COMPETE
*CONTAIN/MANAGE EMOTIONS
*CRITICAL THINKING
*COMPLEX PROBLEM SOLVING
*CREATIVE THINKING
*CONFLICT RESOLUTION
*CARING CATAPULTING CONNECTIONS
*CONVEYING YOUR MESSAGE
*CHARACTER
*CONFIDENCE
*COMPREHENSION & COMPUTATION
INSIGHTFUL BOOKS
* "FIGHTING WORDS!"
* "ROOT REASONS FOR VIOLENCE"
* "WHO CANCELLED COMMON SENSE?"
* "THE WRITE AWAY EXPERIENCE WORKBOOK!"
* "EXIT US...Obvious and Not So Obvious Reasons Why Educators Quit!"
Purchase These Books By Anthony J. Butler